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Comment on Leaving your partner by sandrar

sandrar — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 15:11:03 +0000

Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. Cheers! Sandra. R.

Comment on Accountability by brighterdays4you

brighterdays4you — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 02:14:10 +0000

I’m so glad that you are looking at yourself. It is the first step in being accountable and taking responsibility for your actions.

Comment on Accountability by journey2balance

journey2balance — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 17:06:09 +0000

Thank you for sharing this message on accountability… I so often resist accountability. I think I am trying to leave myself a loophole…

Comment on Free Weight Loss Coaching Session. by Mona

Mona — Wed, 06 May 2009 00:13:37 +0000

Wow, what a courageous step! Congrats! I’m really happy for you!

Comment on A new twist on seeing depression by Pirsey

Pirsey — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 11:21:53 +0000

My friend on Facebook shared this link with me and I’m not dissapointed that I came here.

Comment on Munchausen by Internet by Maleeha

Maleeha — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 11:07:06 +0000

Oh Dear God……..

I think the same scenario is happening to me right now and has been happening for the past four months. Could I get you to contact me? My life has been turned upside down by this mess. maleeha.ahmed at live.com

Comment on Leaving your partner by brighterdays4you

brighterdays4you — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:48:50 +0000

Thank you for your comments Kyle. I would love to know if others feel the same as you. From my experience of working with thousands of people, I have known of very few who have regretted leaving. The majority of them feel relief which makes me wonder which side of the fence you are speaking from. Were you the one that was left? Are you angry about being left? Do you wish that she felt regret?

Comment on Leaving your partner by kyle

kyle — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 06:43:22 +0000

The long comment about the grieving process for the person who is left and why the person who left seems to be going along like nothing happened to them seems like a trite answer, to some extent. It seems there’s just a load of denial going on sometimes.

There is a level of confusion for me as to why people, even people who are trained in psychology or in the helping fields, are uncomfortable with and minimize the impact that is made on lives due to someone feeling that their lives would be better if they weren’t with someone any longer.

Obviously, there are relationships where it’s best to separate, but many times the person who you say is “grieving” while in the relationship is merely being dishonest about what’s happening for them.

That was my experience and I doubt I’m alone.

Many people who leave relationships are often regretful after the glow stops shining around their new love or when their new life without the partner, seems empty and dull.

Comment on Leaving your partner by Tracy Thompson-Tormaschy

Tracy Thompson-Tormaschy — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 18:53:56 +0000

First of all, I’m wondering why it took so long for me to get notification of your comment. July 21st? and I was just notified today?

Secondly, it sounds to me like she has probably already done all of her grieving and that is why she seems not to be grieving now. She likely has been miserable for a long time and now is likely feeling relief at having made the decision to leave while you are just starting to grieve and you are the one feeling miserable.

Comment on Emotional affairs by fracturedself

fracturedself — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 23:18:51 +0000

I can so relate to this, my ex was having an emotional affair and it totally destroyed our marriage. His comment was it is not an affair. My comment was Any time you take anything from your spose and give it to another….it’s an affair. It can be sex, words or whatever.